“Self-doubt is the anchor that keeps our ships from sailing.”
According to British psychologist, Dr. Richard Wiseman, the overall pace of life has increased by 10% worldwide since the mid-90’s. But here in Singapore, the pace of life has increased a massive 30% in the last decade and one-half.
Our society is now dominated by beliefs, attitudes, and ways of thinking that elevate the values of impulse, instant gratification and loss of control to first line actions and reactions. We live under a weight of demands, real and imagined, that is debilitating. Many who feels that they cannot keep up with the pace suffers, they gradually lose their self- esteem and self-confidence.
Our society is now dominated by beliefs, attitudes, and ways of thinking that elevate the values of impulse, instant gratification and loss of control to first line actions and reactions. We live under a weight of demands, real and imagined, that is debilitating. Many who feels that they cannot keep up with the pace suffers, they gradually lose their self- esteem and self-confidence.
In a digital world dominated by celebrity culture and social media, self-image is everything. Adding more pressure are the contemporary ideas of a “perfect figure” and a “perfect life.” What started out as a fun channel for exchanging and sharing personal experiences has now turned into an obsession for approval.
In a digital world dominated by celebrity culture and social media, self-image is everything. Adding more pressure are the contemporary ideas of a “perfect figure” and a “perfect life.” What started out as a fun channel for exchanging and sharing experiences has now turned into an obsession for approval.
People online strive to receive ‘likes’, ‘thumbs-ups’, and other ratings. And those who can’t keep up with the social norms will begin to question their life choices, current social status, and physical appearance.
A recent study revealed that social media users tend to feel lonely, miserable, and envious. This may lead to an alarming loss of self-esteem and confidence.
Self-Confidence vs. Self-Esteem
“Confidence” is derived from the Latin word fidere which means “to trust.” A confident individual has trust in oneself, in his or her abilities, qualities, and judgments.
“A self-confident person is ready to rise to new challenges, seize opportunities, deal with difficult situations, and take responsibility if and when things go awry,” according to an article in Psychology Today.
“Esteem” comes from the Latin word aestimare, meaning “to appraise, value, rate, weigh, or estimate.” In sociology and psychology, self-esteem is defined as the person’s overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It’s also a feeling of satisfaction in his or her own abilities.
People with healthy self-esteem are not affected by external factors like social status, income, and peer pressure. They treat themselves with respect and have no fear of failure or rejection.
Why do we lose confidence in ourselves?
Your friend added you to a social media group but you don’t know them so well. What will you do?
You’re in a meeting and your boss asks a question and you think you have the right answer. Will you raise your hand? Your best friend asked you to give a speech at his wedding. Will you do it?
Approval-seeking and self-doubt continue to bother us on a day-to-day basis. We want to be liked and accepted. But when we don’t get them we start to feel insecure and unsure of our capabilities and worth then our self-confidence starts to erode. We begin to doubt if we can really achieve our goals or whether we can complete our tasks well.
When we have low frustration tolerance, even a very minor failure or setback will give a huge blown our self-confidence. It affects our thoughts, our feelings and our behaviors, hampering our ability to bounce back.
When we doubt our own capability, we tend to react to what other people think, and we will likely to stay in our comfort zone. We become afraid of failure and avoid taking risks. We incline to works hard, stressing ourselves more and more to cover up errors and hopes that no one will ever notice.
When we disqualify our own virtues and strengths, we diminish our self-confidence. Like when someone gives us a compliment, we dismiss it immediately by saying “Oh, it was nothing. Anyone could have done it better than I did.” By so doing, we are planting into our own mind the suggestion that we are “not good enough” and that really hurt our own self-confidence in a long run. This is not about been arrogant but accepting ourselves as we are.
Recover self-confidence with hypnosis
Your boss returned your annual report because of errors, your design was trashed because your teammate proposed a better one, or your mother criticized your dress and ordered you to wear the one she wanted for you. How would you react to those circumstances?
Walt Disney failed a number of times in his life but he never gave up, and he eventually built his business empire.
Oprah Winfrey has a rags-to-riches life story because she didn’t take failure personally.
How about Hellen Keller, Abraham Lincoln, Sylvester Stallone and many others, do you know their stories?
Those are just a few examples of people with true self-confidence.
When you have confidence in yourself, you do what you believe is right even in the absence of support from other people or even if they mock or criticize you for it. You are willing to take risks and go the extra mile to live up to your true potential.
A confident person considers mistakes as lessons learned. He looks at the positive side of failure and believes that he can do better the second time around. He waits for people to congratulate and recognize his accomplishments, and he accepts compliments graciously. He proudly says, “Thank you, I did work hard to get it done. It’s a nice feeling that you recognize my efforts.”
The good thing is that self-confidence can be recovered and/or developed!
Shred the words “I’m not good enough” and replace them with “Yes, I can” in your head and boost your confidence with the help of Hypnotherapy.
It’s been said, “The unconscious mind holds beliefs and truths about us that really aren’t changed much by external facts or proofs.” This means that self-confidence – or the lack of it – is rooted in our unconscious minds. That belief we hold within affects our ability to respond to external stimuli.
Therefore, the only way to permanently alter our level of confidence is by putting up more positive, confident beliefs within our unconscious minds and releasing the limiting beliefs.
Using hypnotherapy techniques, you are able to utilize your resources deep within yourselves to dismiss those negative feelings of low self-confidence and uncertainty, and then replace them with your natural confidence.
Your hypnosis sessions at MindLife Hypnotherapy Singapore are tailored to address your specific goals and needs with regard to your self-confidence and self-esteem issues.
People turn to hypnosis because it is essentially risk-free with minimal effort. Our consulting hypnotist will help you strengthen your unconscious mind with your desires in order for you to feel confident in every choice and decision you make in life.
MindLife Consulting International offers the best of both Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching in Singapore.
“Let us help you reclaim your freedom to realize your full potential”
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MindLife Consulting International LLP also regularly conducts hypnosis training courses:
- Hypnotists Certification Course (NGH)
- Self-Hypnosis Course
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